There are times when you regret breaking up with someone you have been dating for a long time, however, you can always consider giving both of you another chance by reconciling with your ex. Remember, here you need to talk about your past, and move on from there to get your ex back. Today’s post will give you an insight on how to reconcile with your ex with some simple strategies to use for success. Powerful yet simple strategies for reconciling to get your ex back:
1. Never consider the relationship to be a new one
Though you are really tempted to clean the slate and start anew, this is the biggest mistake you will make. Remember that both of you have a past together with some great memories, so take it from there and build up the relationship. Acknowledge the past, and do not ignore it. Own up to your mistakes and try to do better.
2. Never use the past as your weapon
You should never use the past as a weapon when you are considering reconciliation with an ex. Leave them behind and proceed. Hanging on to the past will only make matters worse and your attempts at reconciliation will be futile. You should be very honest about how you feel, and if both of you cannot let go of the past without hurting each other, take time and rethink as to whether getting together is a good idea or not.
3. Communicate with each other honestly
Many relationships tend to break up because of bad communication between the partners. They ignore issues or they just try to internalize them only to make matters worse. There are times when being honest might result in an argument, however, it is better than assuming the worst in the person and bringing in resentment into the relationship. Improving your communication is an effective way in getting back your ex.
4. Be transparent about the time apart
You do not have to apologize to your partner for anything that you did when you were apart from him/her but do not hide it either. Answer questions willingly, unless it is too personal or makes you uncomfortable. If you have dated anyone during the period, be honest about it but do not go into details or explain yourself to your ex, as he/she does not have to know every detail of your life after the split. If they have a problem with it, find out the root cause, it could be pangs of jealousy or something more. Never feel shy to keep your intimate details private as they are only your business and no one else’s.
5. Let your friends and family know
Inform your friends and family that both of you are getting back together again. Not everyone will be happy about your decision however, letting them know will mean that your ex will be around and so his/her feelings should be respected. Most of the time, your family accepts or opposes your decision, and in case of the latter, you should consider taking professional help to get your relationship with your ex back on track again.
With the help of the above strategies, you can get into a reconciliation with your ex and get back into the relationship again. Make sure that you give it space and time to develop into an eternal long-lasting relationship for both of you to cherish for life!
