What is the point of life without love- it has no value, but what if the love relationship you are in is toxic? Walking out of such a relationship is a wise choice, though the thought of being single, and perhaps lonely again can be daunting, sticking on to a toxic relationship is more damaging to you mentally, physically and spiritually.
Today’s post will give you an insight into what a toxic relationship teaches you about love. Stay tuned till the end, to become wiser and more mature when it comes to lessons in love and finding the right person in time. So, let us check them out below-
1. You identify red flags in the relationship better
These are signals that show you the relationship is toxic or something bad is going to happen soon. Often one of the partners to the relationship ignores them but this leads to disaster. Some cases could be your partner not willing to have kids in the future, or a male or a female friend has to go, your partner refuses to talk about difficult things, he/she has a difficult relationship with their mothers, and other similar cases.
Relationships that are unhealthy help you to detect red flags, so if you had paid attention to them right at the start, you could have saved yourself a whole lot of pain.
2. Know what you should not do
Note that an unhealthy relationship takes place because of many reasons, and sometimes your behavior or even a way of thinking can derail a relationship.
Toxic relationships for some people are always repetitive because of their patterns that they repeat in every relationship. If you have a certain pattern that you repeat in every relationship, the next one will also be troublesome. Identify negative patterns that you have and make sure not to repeat them in your next relationship.
For example, never take things personally, for instance, if your partner does not put dirty laundry away properly, this does not mean disrespect all the time, it could be a red flag but you can always talk to your partner about this directly, and mutually come to a conclusion, instead of passing a snide comment or remark assuming your partner will understand.
3. Enabling negative behavior is not supporting
Most women in order to save the relationship or prevent it from breaking up, tend to look the other way when their partner does something wrong. For instance, your partner might yell at you, or even come home drunk daily. You need to put your foot down to make him or her understand that such behavior in the relationship is definitely not okay or acceptable. If you do not speak a word or even look the other way, you indirectly are telling your partner that such a behavior is acceptable by you, and he/she will never change. Speak up, and if there are no changes, walk out!
4. Know what the traits you want in your partner clearly
This is one of the biggest lessons you can learn from a toxic relationship. Most people hold on to people who are toxic however, in the process, even if you are unhappy, you can clearly see the shortcomings in that person, and learn about what you like or dislike. This realization helps you in a large way, to understand what you are looking for in your partner.
For instance, you might be in a relationship with a guy who is insecure, goes out of his way to please everyone around him, hops in and out of jobs, and has a quick temper. Though you love the guy, you suffer. When you finally break up, you can always look for a guy who knows what he is, is confident, steady, patient, and kind.
5. Letting go does not mean you give up on love
Always remember there are two people involved in a love relationship. Just because one person did not give you the effort, does not mean you lose faith in love. You should let go, move on, and take your time to find the right person, but never give up on love, it does exist!
6. Identify how strong you are
When you survive an unhealthy relationship, you identify how strong you actually are. Leaving a person is sad but you letting go of someone you love and who never respected you is indeed an act of great courage. You may not realize it in the beginning, but over time you certainly will.
7. Being alone is much better than being unhappy
This is one thing evident in a toxic relationship that it is much better to be alone than with somebody that makes you unhappy in the relationship. It really can be gruelling to wake up to this fact daily, live with it all the time, and go to bed with it. In the beginning, the thought can make you sad however as the days go by you will discover peace of mind and the relief from struggling from a bad relationship!
Getting out if a toxic relationship is challenging but with time, you will discover that it was worth it!
